News release – MINDFULNESS


Relate Nottinghamshire follows in celeb footsteps with tips for bringing mindfulness to your relationship and sex life


Relate Nottinghamshire believes many people could benefit from introducing basic mindfulness exercises to their relationships and sex life, so has put together some simple exercises to get started.


Relate counsellor Peter Saddington explains what the fuss is all about: “We use mindfulness in sex therapy to help people experience more pleasure by being able to relax and stay focused and present in the moment.  Mindfulness can also benefit our relationships as a whole by relieving stress, building intimacy and enhancing inner peace.  This in turn allows us to have more positive interactions with our partners.


“The great thing about mindfulness is that there are plenty of exercises you can practise at home, either on your own or with your partner.  It doesn’t have to be a huge commitment – even starting with a few minutes each day can help you to feel more connected.  Don’t worry if you feel self-conscious to start with; it may take some time to get used to but you’ll feel the benefits once you get into it.”


Peter’s three mindfulness exercises to enhance your relationship


Focus on your breath

Set some time aside every day to focus on your breathing. It doesn’t have to be long to begin with – maybe start with just five minutes a day and work your way up to 20.

A good way to start is on your own with no distractions.  Close your eyes, relax and start to become aware of how you’re breathing. Breathe in slowly through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Repeat this and gradually become aware of sensations in your body. Recognise and welcome them and then allow those thoughts to drift away to be replaced with other feelings as they arise. Notice what you’re experiencing and feeling. The aim is to let go: rather than reject intrusive thoughts, just let them drift away.


Practise with your partner

Once you’ve practised the breathing exercise a few times on your own, why not try this simple exercise with your partner?  Sit facing and look into each other’s eyes.  Breathe slowly in through your nose and exhale through your mouth as before but this time synchronise your breathing.  Do this for several minutes – it may feel a little strange at first but stick with it and it can have powerful results, increasing feelings of relaxation and intimacy.


Counting exercise

Find a quiet place and close your eyes. Now, in your mind, slowly count to ten.  Focus on each number as you come to it.  Visualise it, then let it go.  You’ll probably find that the first few times your mind wanders; when it does, just go back to number one and start again.  Gradually you’ll be able to build up to ten without interruptions and feel you’ve created a calm space in your busy day.


Relate Nottinghamshire offers information, advice and counselling for all stages of your relationships, including counselling for couples and sex therapy. Call us on 0115 9584278 or visit for more information.




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Notes to editors:

  • Relate champions the importance of strong and healthy relationships as the basis of a thriving society.
  • Personal and social relationships are important in our everyday lives and are central to our wellbeing.
  • Relationships are under increasing pressure – breakdown costs the UK economy £46 billion each year according to the Relationships Foundation.
  • Over a million people every year access information, support and counselling from Relate but it’s clear many more would benefit from Relate services.
  • Relate’s services extend beyond relationship counselling to family counselling, counselling for young people, sex therapy and informal courses and workshops and are offered through a network of 1,700 counsellors across the country.
  • Relate celebrated its 75th birthday in 2013.
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  1. Laura Pearce

    NEWS FROM Relate Nottinghamshire May 2015

    Summer Is Coming

    So what does that mean for relationships?………….happy families by the pool in sunny parts, or more adventurous locations, climbing mountains, diving, hiking, etc.

    Hopefully couples and families enjoy this time, but unfortunately sometimes it brings hidden or ignored stress to the surface. Just spending 24 hours a day with your partner is a big change from the “breakfast go to work, sometimes until late, eat dinner a bit of TV and bed” routine.

    So we just wanted to remind you that Relate has over 60 years of experience in helping couples with a variety of relationship issues.

    We use only accredited and qualified counsellors; we are impartial, independent and professional.

    As Relate is a charity, we are not seeking to make a profit only to cover our costs. We keep our fees as low as possible. We also have flexible charges for people who genuinely cannot afford the sessions. So do contact us and see if we can help. Talk things through together with the counsellor; it can make all the difference. The alternative might be the harsh costs of divorce or separation, both financial and emotional, on all the family.

    There is no stigma attached to visiting Relate, it is a sensible course of action. All discussions are confidential; client consultations remains private between you, if appropriate your partner and your counsellor.

    If you want to explore what could be done, contact us – maybe try an initial appointment to see if you think we can help you. There is no obligation to continue if you don’t think it’s for you.

    0115 9584278

    More Minds Needed
    The Trustees of Relate have recently recruited some new trustees, but need more, so if you are interested in our service we have opportunities for volunteer Directors to join our Board. Those with Finance, HR, IT, Business Development and Marketing experience are particularly sought. Make a difference by ensuring we are well run, efficient, effective and forward thinking.

    You can find the details on REACH, Do-It and our own website, . Contact The Chair Malcolm Pattman on 07973 155350 for an informal discussion.

    Malcolm Pattman has recently taken on the role of Chair of the Board of Trustees for Relate Nottingham. He brings management experience in a wide variety of sectors including retailing, betting shops and casinos, medical charities, road transport and the police. Since retiring he has taken on voluntary roles involved in Domestic Violence, computer literacy for older people, and various other areas including health services, and is currently a Magistrate on the Nottingham Bench. He moves to the Relate role after a number of years with Nottingham Credit Union, latterly as Chair.


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